Thanksgiving Thoughts

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and it’s not because no gifts are involved. It’s a time of family and friends, some fellowship and fun, and since I’m looking for another word that starts with an “f” I would have to add football. But the holiday weekend should be more than an excuse to overeat, then search out “Black Friday” sales , Small Business Saturday, and Cyber Monday. Too much commercialism.

Many people my age have the privilege of being comfortable, safe, and relatively happy. There are, however, far too many who are not in the same position. What’s the best way to help those less fortunate? Less lucky? Less privileged? Most of my peers contribute to various charities, volunteer, or do otherwise good deeds, but the needs seem greater than before.

I think the answer may lie in the expression “generosity of spirit.” That’s more about giving attention, time, and actual concern. For years (in another career) I wrote about the key to a happy Thanksgiving was the cliche “more sharing, less comparing.” And it wasn’t about sharing material things as much as sharing time, conversations, and being present.

The “less comparing” is about the human desire to see how we measure up in terms of wealth, status, or accomplishments to our friends, neighbors, or peers. I think the key to a great time this weekend is to spend more time sharing the joy of family and friends and less comparing how we stack up with others.